Relapse Assessment Guide

To assess your efforts before relapse ask yourself these questions about positive actions and these questions about relapse behavior.

Positive recovery actions

How many meetings were you attending per week?

How many meetings were you talking in?

How many invitations did you accept from others in the program to socialize with them?

Did you use a daily prayer and meditation time?

Did you have a sponsor? Did you call him/her?

Did you go to meetings early and stay late to help set up or make coffee, or help clean up?

Did you do a daily tenth step at the end of your day, assessing what you did well that day and areas needing improvement?

Did you entertain thoughts that you are not a “real” alcoholic/addict?

Did you read recovery literature daily?

Did you use daily structure to assist you? Did you occupy a lot of your time with recovery activities or did you have a lot of unstructured free time?

Relapse behaviors

Identify the relapse behaviors that you were engaging in before you actually took the chemical.

__Denying what you know to be true about the disease of addiction. Seeing it as not pertaining to you.

__ Thinking that this time, you would have control over your drinking/drugging.

__ Not accepting cross addiction.

__Being unwilling to be honest with others about your thoughts and feelings about recovery, using, and how you fit in.

__Not appropriately managing your stress.

__Not appropriately managing you feelings.

__Lack of a spiritual program of recovery.

__Negative, hostile, world view.

__Immature wish to “just be happy”.

__Wanting to be “normal”.

__Feeling stuck and not asking for help.

__Not talking about triggers you might have experienced.

__Not giving others permission to tell you that you are back in old thinking, feelings, and behavior. Instead, you get mad or defensive.

Identify what happened in your recovery that contributed to your relapse.

Take immediate steps to remedy those situations.

Go back to meetings. Tell the group you relapsed.

Tell your important significant others and once again, ask them to tell you when they see old, relapse behavior.

Don’t entertain the notion that you can stay out there “just a little longer”. Many people die before they make it back.

Addiction recovery is a lifelong process, just as recovery from all chronic diseases are. To empower yourself and your addicted loved one, gain as many tools and resources as you can.